A man's penile erection is a natural function from birth until death. An erection is caused by an increase in rigidity and size of the penis due to the influx of blood to the corpora cavernosa in response to either physical stimuli or mental stimuli or both.However, this natural bodily function can be and is affected by various factors such as culture, education, myths and personal beliefs as well as a man’s health. It is a fact that man’s most important sexual organ is not his penis but his mind. Each human being expresses his sexuality in a unique and personal fashion based on experience, information and consciousness.

In today’s society there is a wealth of information and multiple myths and beliefs that will either block or favor good sexual activity at different stages of life. This is especially true if a man bases this marvelous and healthy activity solely on his erectile ability and the shape and size of his penis (He can’t see the forest for the trees). In our sexualized society, men (both young and old) commonly equate erectile strength with the ability to conquer or keep a woman (or women) at his side. This has consciously or unconsciously created performance anxiety and even stage fright during sexual interactions. This anxiety can in turn produce erectile dysfunction (i.e. no erection) or premature ejaculation, which can create personal problems and relationship problems later on.

Men who suffer these problems suffer from lowered self-esteem in regard to their own sexual lives and their performance in other non-related areas such as work, family and sports will also be affected. This creates a negative vicious cycle, with greater anxiety causing greater erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, which in turn generates greater anxiety.

Change your way of looking at things and you’ll see different things. I’m hoping to convince those people suffering from these types of sexual problems to look at their sexual relations from another point of view. That way you won’t generate anxiety. Without a doubt, if we all focus our sexual relationships on our deep gratitude for our partner, on admiration, beauty, tenderness, compassion and love, the results will be immediate. The anxiety will disappear and the erection will be stronger and last longer.

Don’t think about sex, just feel it with your heart and your body.

Dr. Raúl Meza Díaz
Urologist